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[baa_baa_black_sheep]

Hiya all.

What's this all about?? My friend asked me for some advice the other day, she says a couple of married men keep coming on to her. I told her to stay away, but she says she likes the attention.

I don't get it, what to do??

xx

[stupid_sexy_flanders]

Haha maybe they want her to have their babies She should be careful though seriously.

[Eva]

tut, tut, tut, tut...wrong, wrong, wrong.

even though I'm not finding myself atractive, I had "indecent proposal" once ( from married guy), but fortunately, I have my own rules, so I haven't done anything stupid, so far. :biggrin: but I'm hoping for the best:-)

[Andy B]

I say go for it, you only live once and you've got to try these things and you'll never know unless you try. And No before anyone says it i'm not a married man. Man yes. Married no.

John Stewart Mill says in "On Liberty" that the individual should be free to engage in any behaviour they wish provided that it causes no physical harm to others without fear of intervention from society or the state.

I knew my philosophy course wasn't a waste of time.

[all write tree cull]

Its not very nice when families are ripped appart because one or other of the couple has an affair. Trust me on this.

[Andy B]

True, been through it myself as a child and as a man. However if he wants to cheat he'll do it anyway. There must be a problem in the relationship for him to consider it, better to end the relationship and be happy than to stay in a loveless marriage surely?

[all write tree cull]

If the marriage is actually loveless, they should have the guts to end it before embarking on a destructive extra marital affair. Maybe the other partner doesn't believe it is loveless.

[Andy B]

That's not her problem though, it's his.

[all write tree cull]

Yes , thats true but she does need to question whether it is morally right to add fuel to the fire imo.

[Andy B]

Depends upon your point of view I suppose. If you spend too much time worrying about other people you can lose sight of your own needs and desires.

[all write tree cull]

But if your own needs and desires help to destroy a marriage...........

[Andy B]

Precisely, help, not cause. It's one link in a chain of many. If she had been the one to instigate it then I would say it would be wrong of her. He intstigated it though, so it's not her fault, it's his.