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Aled's fourth surgery on Radio 1


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Yes, Aled will again be presenting The Surgery on Radio 1again this week - 13th July 2008 - from 10pm. This week he'll be talking about family relationships. If you've got any stresses or worries you can get in touch using the usual methods of communication!

Click here to read what listeners had to say about the last Surgery.

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So does anyone want to start the ball rolling... what stresses you out about your family? :P

I am sure I could be all day with this one. Particularly something that annoys me is how my parents treat my sister as the better sibling. I used to say I couldn't visit family as I'd have coursework or homework. They'd say it was no excuse. Then when my sister was in that position... even if she wasn't doing that... she'd say that and they'd believe her. They would say she had coursework and that I'd have to go. It's the same with work. If I do a bit of overtime I'm told that I should be doing that as I should be working a lot of hours. If she does it my parents will say how she's doing a lot to earn cash and I should take note.

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See my latest blog post for what stresses me out about my family. In short, my mother is never pleased, and uses her illness and disability to manipulate the rest of us into doing anything she wants and taking any amount of put-downs and nasty comments just to stop her sulking.

Just yesterday she told me I was a failure. Just because I don't want to be an overachiever like she was. If I was lying in a gutter shooting up heroin, she'd have grounds to call me a failure.

'Forget happiness I'm fine, I'll forget everything in time'

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Yeah, I hear the 'failure' line a lot. If all the other 19 year olds in my town are doing something else then I'm not normal and I'm a failure. If everyone is working throughout the summer, I should be doing that. If everyone is at university, I should be doing that. If they're playing football, I should too. That annoys me - they don't understand originality - nor do they not understand modern lives. When they were 15 they were working full-time etc...

If you argue they're being unsupportive they then take it VERY personally. I've had things thrown about because of that. I just mean it's not nice to say, but they take it as if I mean they've never done anything for me.

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I'm not even going to get started on my family as I could write for months. We used to be a properly "Stepford" family until my parents divorced which is when I saw the really nasty side of my mother, something I still can't really get over. As much as I love her, I find it difficult to respect her after what she put the family through.

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After all that I complain about my family, my mother casually mentioned to me that my parents will be going to the other side of the world for 3 months in the New Year. I still felt this slight feeling of abandonment, that they're going away for 3 months and didn't even bother mentioning it to me, probably wouldn't bother until quite close to the time. I suppose there's still the strings tying us all to our families, no matter what else we may feel about them.

I never once remember my mum saying to me, "well done, you did well." She'd always ask for my exam results and then pick on the lowest one and ask "what went wrong there?" or say "you're disappointed with that of course", all I ever remember he saying is "Which one did you get the B in?" I mean I can't be brilliant at everything. Just a little congratulating at certain points might have helped improve my self esteem rather than telling me that I'm never good enough. My dad is happy no matter what I achieve, exams or otherwise, because he can tell I've tried my best. The best just isn't good enough for my mother.

'Forget happiness I'm fine, I'll forget everything in time'

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So does anyone want to start the ball rolling... what stresses you out about your family? :P

I am sure I could be all day with this one. Particularly something that annoys me is how my parents treat my sister as the better sibling. I used to say I couldn't visit family as I'd have coursework or homework. They'd say it was no excuse. Then when my sister was in that position... even if she wasn't doing that... she'd say that and they'd believe her. They would say she had coursework and that I'd have to go. It's the same with work. If I do a bit of overtime I'm told that I should be doing that as I should be working a lot of hours. If she does it my parents will say how she's doing a lot to earn cash and I should take note.

I take it you will be texting/emailing/ringing in again Jono ;)

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I take it you will be texting/emailing/ringing in again Jono ;)

No, the show is only two hours long ;)

Recession is another one. What with the recession anything I don't pay for my parents are now making a big issue about. Me and my sister use the internet so my dad wants me to pay for it. I guess we're now at that age where that's fair enough - but up until now it was agreed it'd help with our education. He says I shouldn't be using my mobile phone and instead contributing to the money. Then I offer some money and they say keep it and spend it on school books. The tax credits run out this year now we're both going to uni so my parents will be strapped for cash at such a bad time!

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My mum is convinced she needs to stockpile food because the shops are going to run out. It's panic-buying that leads to those sort of problems. There's already more than enough food in this house to keep a small army fed for several weeks. There's nothing any of us can say about it though, just let her do it.

'Forget happiness I'm fine, I'll forget everything in time'

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Looks like Aled is more of a DJ than Kelly or Fearne.

There are a few negative things I could write about my family but they are all insignificant - my parents live for me and my brother and nothing else matters to them. I love them very much and I feel very loved. They are all a bit insane and sometimes quite difficult to live with but they are easily one of the very few things that have "worked out" well for me - I would not change a thing about them.

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they introduced the guest as a 'cbbc agony aunt'. that sounds a bit patronising to me, i think it might be aimed at children today :|

I think that most family problems will occur in the pre-teens ages than the age groups UM appeals to.

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