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Are you the favourite sibling?


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Assuming you have a sibling of course. When I was younger and doing exams I'd constantly be nagged at despite having a newspaper column, coursework and revision to cope with. I'd be moaned at for being on the computer constantly. And throughout GCSE and A Level my sister was the same... but she never got moaned at. "She's working", my mum would say. Hmm...

Family members will help my sister out and fix her car and whatever problems she has. But all hell comes down to visit us if I have a problem or I'm doing something that they don't like. My sister sells her computer... it's all fine... I'm selling my laptop... it's wrong.

I go to the Big Weekend... it's a big fuss! The same weekend my sister goes to Give It A Name in Sheffield, no fuss. Even though I'd booked my train tickets and accommodation, and she didn't know how to do it.

So I sense I'm not the favourite sibling. Anyone get that in their family?

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I don't know really. I'm the youngest and my brother and sister are both about 10 years older than me, so they went to uni about the same time and I've felt like an only child. But they both cocked up so much when they were my age that my parents are very overprotective of me. They reckon I'll run away to New Zealand and get married like my sister did when she was 18. I feel as if my mum is really afraid that I'll cock up and not get into medical school so she nags me a lot, which she never did with my brother and sister (though I think that's because she sees them as so volatile that any nagging will just spur them on to further rebellion).

She was perfectly fine with my sister getting Ds at GCSE but when I had Bs it was like the end of the world for her. She said that because I've grown up in this country and English isn't my second language I had no excuse not to get straight A*s. Then as AS results day last year I only got 1 B and she said she was so relieved because she was so sure I'd not get higher than a C on anything. I think she thinks I'm the idiot of the family.

She's well strict on whether I can go out by myself still, and tries to make sure she has to give me a lift so she can see who I'm hanging out with. Now my friends have started driving she can't do that any more. Whereas with my brother and sister she had no idea what they were up to. She only just found out that my brother's been smoking for about 15 years now.

I don't know, maybe it's because I'm the only one she gives a damn about, but dear lord it's smothering.

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Tara, I guess your mum feels like she didn't do so well with your brother and sister and wants to do better.

My sister used to be the favourite sibling because she achieved more and was happier to do what my parents wanted her to do. She's always been more ambitious than me. On the other hand though, she was always really clingy and right up until last year she wouldn't be left in the house in the evening or over night on her own (she's 23) and required 'babysitting' effectively. When we were kids, I was definitely the easier one because I was happy to stay wherever and be away from my parents and I had better health.

Now though, my sister is at home ill and not doing anything, which is a source of shame for my parents because they can't tell their friends about how their darling daughter has got a wonderful job and is achieving. I hate their attitude.

I don't know who their favourite sibling is any more. My sister has become an evangelist christian, which they really don't like, so maybe it's me again.

'Forget happiness I'm fine, I'll forget everything in time'

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My brother gets really annoyed 'cause he's always compared to me. I'm always better at school, better at revision, better at being organised etc. Also, I always used to win all the competitions I entered (e.g. poetry reading or German), which means that quite a lot of the time I make my parents really proud. He doesn't even try. He is always expected to do as well as me in his exams, although he's a boy. On the other hand, he's always much better at sports. He's won a few cups for tennis and football, but that's never appreciated as much as it's regarded as a hobby, rather than career. However, I tend to be reminded that he's the better looking one :P

At the end of the day, he's always mummy's boy, and I'm always my dad's daughter.

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I haven't a clue, my parents split up when I was about 12. I then turned into a bit of a psycho. I was even dossing in a children's home for years where two of my mates lived. I would expect my sisters more favoured because she decided to breed. On my ma's side my half brother is the shining beacon for sure.

'The light at the end of the tunnel was the light of an oncoming train'

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I'd say I'm my mum's favourite considering my brother got kicked out this weekend, but she's still an utter cow to me and thinks I'm not old enough to make my own decisions. She'll give me all hell for the slightest thing and I always get the wrong end of her mood swings. However when I told her I planned to move to my father's she went all emotional on me and now we're in some semi-forced "I love you" stage which is just cringeworthy. I think she thinks that I'm going to live with whoever spoils me the most, which is just embarrassing and makes me quite angry that she thinks I'm like that.

I'm never too sure who's the favourite with my dad, I've always been a daddy's girl, but he's really proud of my brother for turning his life around too (and has just asked him to move back in at his house), so I'd say we're equal there. He tends to go through stages of boasting about a particular one of us (when I do well in school, win awards, etc it's me and when my brother gets something published or a promotion it's him), but that's fair enough I suppose.

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my younger half brother is favourite but he is only 5 and pretends to be sweet. My older brother is the worst at the moment and all 3 of my step sisters are angels (NOT!!!) and then there is me so i am second to last favourite but i havent done anything so im not sure why....

Kitty <3

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I would have to say my sister would be the 'favourite'. My parents and my sister are all athletic, popular, and extroverts. They get on great as they have the same interests. I'm not like that though, I'm much quieter than them, was bullied at a regular basis through my entire school life and I'm more academic than sporty. The way I do things and my opinions are practically the direct opposite to my parents, so we don't really get on. The don't get me, and I don't really get them!

I think that I'm too old now to be considered as a 'favourite child'. I'm 18, I have a job that pays for all my expenses so my parents don't need to support me financially, I live a completely independent life from them and from July this year when I get made fully qualified at my job (thus more money) I'll be looking into saving up a deposit and buying my first home too. So as far as I'm concerned my sister can get all the attention, she needs it all right now!

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I'm the middle kid and i wouldn't say i was the favourtie, i'd just say i was the least disliked. My older brother is always irritating my mum financially whereas my younger sister is just plain irritating and is always arguing with my mum. I get on the most with my parents out of the three of us.

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I am frequently told that none of my siblings were ever treated as favourites, though that is said with a slight guilt in the voice and a look of sorrowful atonement.

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